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Douglas E. Noll
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Doug is a sought-after keynote speaker at national conferences. He has an active international training and workshop schedule. From the Middle East to Asia to Europe and throughout North America, Doug teaches executives how to lead groups in difficult decision-making. He also teaches advanced mediation and conflict resolution skills and master negotiation workshops.
In addition to being a keynote speaker and negotiation trainer, Doug is a full time peacemaker and mediator. He specializes in difficult, complex, and intractable conflicts. He is an adjunct professor of law at the Straus Institute of Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine School of Law and has a Masters Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies. Doug is AV-rated and was a business and commercial trial lawyer for 22 years before turning to peacemaking.
In addition to being a keynote speaker and negotiation trainer, Doug is a full time peacemaker and mediator. He specializes in difficult, complex, and intractable conflicts. He is an adjunct professor of law at the Straus Institute of Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine School of Law and has a Masters Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies. Doug is AV-rated and was a business and commercial trial lawyer for 22 years before turning to peacemaking.
Stop Fights and Arguments Forever
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Doug Noll 2022 Speaker Reel
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This is Doug Noll's 2022 speaker reel. You can find him at https:'//dougnoll.com. #dougnollspeaker Doug speaks and presents workshops on: How to De-Escalate Any Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less How to Develop Emotional Competency How to Have Difficult Conversations Without Being Anxious How to Convene and Conduct Listening Peace Circles
Don't Problem-Solve
Просмотров 2982 года назад
Doug explains why you should never problem-solve for another person without de-escalating them first. When you give unsolicited advice, you are often soothing your anxiety at the expense of the other person. This almost always never goes well. If you want to learn the emotional skills to stop jumping in and solving problems, enroll at dougnoll.com/lp/listen-others-into-existence You might like ...
The Tyranny of Traditional Values
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Many people believe that traditional values are the foundation of family life and business success. In this video, I look at the four traditional values found in every culture and explain that each has a dark side that is too often exploited to protect power, position, and privilege If you want to learn the emotional skills these leaders have developed, enroll at dougnoll.com/lp/listen-others-i...
360 Power Group Introduction
Просмотров 1112 года назад
The new shape of power as conceived of by 360 Power Group.
Dysfunctional Teams
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Inheriting or leading a dysfunctional team is not fun. I've observed three common problems with dysfunctional team members. In this video, I explain the problems, where they come from, and one powerful antidote I've witnessed superb leaders employ that transform a dysfunctional team into a high performing team almost overnight.. If you want to learn the emotional skills these leaders have devel...
Empathy Is The Rosetta Stone Of Life
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Empathy is the Rosetta Stone of life as it permits us to understand the language of emotion. To learn how to listen others into existence, enroll at dougnoll.com/lp/listen-others-into-existence. Playlist ruclips.net/p/PLT1R_dbaUBb_BewOfuxtEPPz_l7hJ2xhw Why Emotional Intelligence Must Be Learned ruclips.net/video/96S2GJb7VVo/видео.html Stop anger at home ruclips.net/video/O6vfmBaVatE/видео.html ...
Why We Think Emotions Are Weak--We Have Been Lied Too
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Why We Think Emotions Are Weak We Have Been Lied Too
4 Essential Verbal Communication Skills
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4 Essential Verbal Communication Skills
Why We Do Not Have Innate Emotional Intelligence
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Why We Do Not Have Innate Emotional Intelligence
Can Emotional Intelligence Be Trained
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Can Emotional Intelligence Be Trained
How to Create Psychological Safety as a Leader
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How to Create Psychological Safety as a Leader
5 Things to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence
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5 Things to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence
How to Stop Fights and Arguments Around COVID
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How to Stop Fights and Arguments Around COVID
Zoom Demo for Online Mediations and Arbitratons
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Zoom Demo for Online Mediations and Arbitratons
Synthesis of the work of Gordon Neufeld and Doug Noll
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Synthesis of the work of Gordon Neufeld and Doug Noll
De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less 3-14-19
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De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less 3-14-19
@19.00 you are entirely wrong! You do not want to portray a sense of safety through striated facial muscles of smiling and tone of voice. It is not about not appeasing, etc., as though these things are to be controlled as “willful or voluntary behaviors.” Essentially, what you advocating at the end is to be kind entirely misguided. In other words how to “Give or convey an appearance differently to someone” humorously or ironically in order to precise appease them or to be, if you will, a genuine fake. What you want to do is to with our cultivate (not in order to appear or cover up) the underlying interoceptive foundations of felt-safety.
I apologize for my previous comment, I should not have said that . I would like to remove it but need to learn how . Again , my apologies.
I worked in a psych hospital as a tech on the floor with with a fairly large acute population; people with psychosis schizophrenia etc. It really is amazing how well this technique in his book works. It feels weird as shit to do it but it is amazing and so effective.
Omg how did you get through the whole process I got hired then gave up they wanted all this info I got bad sensory overload then just gave up 😂. But damn the constant demands are awful. I wish I could just volunteer in the psych ward but they don’t do that
thank you
Thanks for wasting my time. Ain’t gonna read that book and go watch some other video
Situations, Attitutudes, Choices, Actions, Issues, Respondsibility, News
Engaging system two: shifting perspective to stimulate cognitive processing, i.e. problem solving
This is difficult for many people.
A frame of reference, attributes.
Note: System one: A sympathetic, i.e. emotional, automatic, effortless
Correct
Note: People don't like system two thinking because it hurts, i.e. painful, effortful, difficult
Exactly.
Thank you for this..... is exactly what I needed to hear....
Thanks. check out my offer to facilitate a difficult conversation at dougnoll.com/lp/difficult-conversations
Basically a waste of time.
How to say nothing in 2:10
So helpful to hear, thank you for this peaceful insight
8:10 ... we have been biased for thousands and thousands of years that emotions are bad, that we are rational beings. Well, we are not rational beings, that's old, old philosophy, it's not true. Neuroscientists today tell us that we are emotional beings with small moments of rationality. - No words to thank your content. Just discovered your channel. Hugs from Brazil.
Dont love don't love don't love.
Beware also of instrumental affect labelling: a sophisticated manipulator will superficially acknowledge your emotion to soothe you and go on to continue to pressure you or distort what you're expressing. That's why I look behind the acknowledgement to the intention: sometimes an acknowledgment conceals an intention to dismiss.
Great info! I will be much more careful in the future with how I address these situations with family and friends. Especially my G K's
Glad it was helpful!
Yes all of those things said. Then, it is what it is and whatever. Not good for anyone!! Smart mouths
As a midlifer, I think it's really important to make these experiences accessible to everyone, at any age. There is a weird perception that each generation cultivates, and we forget that our life experiences/suffering are not inclusive to that time, in their journey. We still try to heal, even in the middle of our lives. thanks for posting this. 💌 Edin in- just want to add... it is not OUR responsibility to heal our partner, or give them advise or therapy. That is why we have educated professionals. Our roles as partners are to support...not be therapists. be kind to yourself pls.✌🏽
Listen, reflect and observe. More helpful than a crapload of unwanted advice.
Yep. Works like a charm.
Great subject! You need to talk more about this!
I will!
bait and switch. Now from your "Restorative Questions"... 1. From your perspective, what happened and why is this video incorrectly labeled? 2. What have you thought about since you posted this deception? 3. Who has been affected by this deception and how? 4. What about this deception of others has been hardest for you? What do you think needs to be done about this deception to make things better or as right as possible?
You need to change the title to why you should read your book. Clickbait makes people angry. I guess you can get more practice with your De-escalation tactics…
Yes. This was a video for a webpage and I have now made it private so as to not mislead. If you would like to see videos where I actually teach about emotions, visit my new channel The Power of Emotional Competency ruclips.net/video/y9Ai5KqMgdg/видео.html
How often do you give unsolicited advice only to see it backfire on you?
What are your thoughts about traditional values?
Lindo
Yes. This was a video for a webpage and I have now made it private so as to not mislead. If you would like to see videos where I actually teach about emotions, visit my new channel The Power of Emotional Competency ruclips.net/video/y9Ai5KqMgdg/видео.html
It's an advertisement for a book, not actually how to deescalate. Not a bad video, just a guy advertising. Nothing wrong with that
Yes. This is a VSL for my book sales page. Check out the other videos on my playlist and you will find more informative videos.
Yes. This was a video for a webpage and I have now made it private so as to not mislead. If you would like to see videos where I actually teach about emotions, visit my new channel The Power of Emotional Competency ruclips.net/video/y9Ai5KqMgdg/видео.html
Wow! I can draw parallels to my own upbringing and childhood. When watching this video I instantly recognized where my own problems have started as a child. I as an adult ( I'm in my 30s) have for a long time, had problems connecting to other people, and create lasting friendships and romantic partners. I think you really are on to something here Doug. How Can I learn to do this affect labeling myself ?
Check out my courses on my website, dougnoll.com
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
You are so welcome!
Chronic emotional (psychological) invalidation is the reason people end up spinning out of control.
It’s called emotional abuse
You're great. Thanks.
Happy to help!
This is the bread & butter of all relationships... People don't know how to give bread. Only crumbs
I can promise you, as I write this, ,that if I were to use" YOU statements", when I " reflect back, what I am receiving by the tonality, volume, speed, body language, eye expressions, I will be met by IF YOU KEEP SAYING THAT I AM ANGRY?Frustrated, I WILL GET ANGRY. When I use the way it is delivered, the words seldom match the delivery and when I reflect back what I am getting, I get " blasted". WHAT THEN???
Your reaction is the normal reaction from most people. If you experiment with this, you will find that the speaker will feel deeply validated, not become more angry. Start practicing in very low-risk social situations to test out the idea. For example, you might say to a Starbucks barista, "You look happy this morning." Carefully observe what happens. Most likely, you will receive a broad smile and an emphatic yes. Keep practicing with baristas, restaurant servers, and strangers with one word reflections until you prove to yourself that this actually works. Then explore with friends and small children. Watch their eyes light up as you "listen them into existence." Finally, when you feel confident, bring it into your intimate relationships. You will discover in about three weeks of this practice, that you can calm any angry person quickly and efficiently. Do you have the courage to try?
HI this information is important. Having a " game plan" for when situations become emotional, and they do with laser speed, is needed. Somehow these videos need to reach many more that 98 folks in 4 months.
Viewers like you help spread this information by liking and sharing with your friends. This is not a quick-fix, overnight trick. The skill takes practice to master.
This is so powerful. Thanks for your talk today to our group in Canada. Loved the exercises you shared.
That's not possible if you have bpd
Amazing!
This was interesting. Could you explain how both parties determined the percentage and dollar amounts, as it seemed kind of numbers pulled out of the air.
Hi Jeff. Yes, they are pulled out of the air. Basically, the exercise is designed to get counsel and parties off one high (or low) number and recognize that there are multiple outcomes with multiple probabilities. I have each side play around with the percentages and outcomes and even guess at what the other side's numbers might be. Almost always the Expected Value is very close on both sides, which opens the door for the negotiation.
Sherri Princell From Gibsonville, NC
It is to protect their own feelings. It’s uncomfortable for them and they’re actually being selfish. They won’t hold a space to sit and talk. In this way, over time more problems and feelings surface later. Or even explode! It makes the person feel unsupported, dismissed and unloved. More problems could be avoided and the person hurting could be helped if the person invalidating them had just sat and listened to them and let them know that they see that they’re in pain even if they can’t understand. ♥️
This is exceptional. You're very concise & clear, speak with great tone & confidence. Not once did you go off subject or say "umm" Hands down one of the best vids on this subject
Wow, thank you!
Exactly! All the don'ts. Me .
Watching this from the Seattle area!
I love Seattle! I’m in Oregon ☺️
Dysfunctional teams are no fun to lead. However, there are a few superb leaders I have seen lead teams from dysfunction to high performance. What about you?
Don’t be so dramatic! yea my brother invalidated me…
This is triggering that’s not how things are lol
I found the list of comments that invalidate another…so powerful to actual hear them spoken ( not just reading them). It is helpful to remind me when I say these statements . Thanks!
Has this information helped you stop fights and arguments in your relationship?
Are you one of the many in a tall tower with the language to connect to others?